Healing Your Inner Child as You Raise Your Own Children

One of the (many!) surprises that came my way upon becoming a mother was that I suddenly had none of my own time.

I used to have hours at my disposal to meditate, read books, and peruse on-line spiritual forums. Suddenly that was gone. I was committed to being the best mother I could be. But I was worried about my spiritual progress stalling.

Once I stopped resisting my new lifestyle, though, solutions started to come through. And some of my biggest leaps in healing came during this time, including my own inner child healing.

For example, I noticed that whenever my infant son cried I literally felt like I was being stabbed in the heart. And my reaction was to freeze. I had to mentally tell myself to soothe my son, and usually my soothing did not do much for him. I began to worry, about my mothering skills and the impact this would have on my son, and my own inner demons. Why did I behave this way?

I asked my Higher Mind for guidance and everywhere I looked this answer was shown to me: as you raise your child your own issues come up for healing. Use this time as a period to heal and transform your own inner child.

I stopped judging myself for having this behavior. And when my son cried, and I winced in pain, I did my best to stay neutral. The non-judgmental awareness helped me to see what was happening. I was reliving my own past. My parents did not have the soothing skills that I needed when I was young. I had internalized freezing or some other form of resisting when my child called out to me for help.

Simply by becoming aware and letting layer after layer of this energy dissolve, it transformed. I didn’t need to reinforce the “right” behavior or learn it. Soothing my child with love arose naturally once I had dissolved my own pain.